I hate to say this, and believe me I understand all to well how your feeling.
Unfortunately, just getting your money back is going to be the best outcome you can hope for. Going for per diem or lost time isn't going to get you anywhere unless you can prove the truck is used for and a sole source to your income, even then it'll be difficult.
The best/worst thing to do is continue to share about your experience and hope to hit the merchants bottom line that way
Sometimes it does, sometimes it won't. Most people here don't realize that the forums are a fraction of the source of our business (yes, I am speaking for all performance diesel shops). The online community is a great source of opinion, but it is not even close to the end-all-be-all of one's decision to perform a modification. Local advertising at events and word-of-mouth are the leading factors in good work flow, from what I've seen. One's reputation, dedication, and customer service still plays a huge role, and it has very little to do with what he/she says about their experience on the internet, but more-so during face to face interaction.