You shouldn't have to tune the tcm to try and bandaid a problem in the trans. If I were In Your shoes and you think everything is correct you can either A. check your pressure by buying a fitting, gauge etc.... Or B. drop the pan and cut open the internal filter and see what yah find. I think a lot of these guys are a little burnt out on trying to diagnose things over the net when they have no idea what was done inside. I understand you're looking for answers and there is a lot of info out there and I am like you, I enjoy doing things myself. I have a feeling you may be tearing back into her. Not sure if I read it or not but did you replace your internal harness during the build? Also if it were me, suncoast would know me by name if I were having issues, so I would definitely pick their brain as much as possible.