This is what i know to this point, i have done some of this.
Return at the rail is hot enough to make you think you burned your finger, Reconsider rubber hose (good to 200) remove a section of hardline return and tap in a 1/2 soft line run the temp guage off of it.
FICM can see/mine has seen more than 14 PSI, my water to air system, cooling my FICM/Fuel/IC Exchanger, sees way over 18 lbs of water pressure. 1000 miles later NO issue, no leak, no related codes. 4 hours of run time and after a hard pass, i can stick my finger in it, its warm not hot.
Drove it 4 hours today up to Orange County and back, daily driving every day.
Thanks Simon. Water to the FICM was his idea.