After looking at that diagram, it looks to me like some creative wiring could get you set up and working around the BCM. See the attached wiring diagram I modified for you. All you need is one relay. This should have it working with the dome lamp override and everything.
so am i splicing into these wires or what? i will have a better understanding when i print this out so i will try to figure it out and probably ask you 300 more questions, im glad theres some smart guys on here, i've learned a lot in 2 months from this forum.