well i was finally able to get to the back of the headlight switch panel since none of the fuses in the upper panel are switched or actually control the dimmer, it's all fed through the bcm I assume.
The 4x4 connector is easy to get to and low and behold has a brown wire with a white stripe going to it, so after checking voltage on it, it is indeed switched so I ran the 12+ aux wires from the gauges to it.
They now turn on and off with the headlights, which is ok I guess, and they do dim with the dimmer switch, but it isn't much at all,
So all in all, i'm not sure I accomplished what I was looking for, but I do now have gauge lights that switch on with the headlights:roflmao: