what gets me.......I just don't understand how she could keep them from me...........I could understand if i was a druggie, an alky, or abusive....but for no reason? just to be a bitch? you guys have no clue what's went through my head to obtain 24 hours with my boys...but they've already went on there first fishing trip with stepdaddy. I haven't seen them in 7 months and God know what she tells them, so i'm sure they think i abonded them, as they're not super crazy about talking to me anymore, whereas, they used to be daddy's boys like you couldn't imagine. so much for that....i even begged to come to their birthdays..............nope. she wouldn't tell me when or where. and I'm a major piece of shit because I won't send her every last one of the pictures, toys, clothes, etc. that i have of them.................... which by the way is an extremely small amount.
Thank you. As much as i dislike her right now....I would never keep her from them, or them from her. You know why? because she is their mother. PERIOD. It's not fair to them, for all of this, it's truly sad. And nothing pisses me off more, than someone saying, well..........one day they're gonna hate her for what shés done....I don't want them to hate her...I just want to be a father.I don't see how she could either. It doesn't make sense, I don't get how anyone could keep someone's children from them for no reason. I'm sorry.
Thank you. As much as i dislike her right now....I would never keep her from them, or them from her. You know why? because she is their mother. PERIOD. It's not fair to them, for all of this, it's truly sad. And nothing pisses me off more, than someone saying, well..........one day they're gonna hate her for what shés done....I don't want them to hate her...I just want to be a father.
Im sorry to hear. Im going thru the same thing right now.
But question for you guys.... Baby's daddy is trying to fight me on full custody. He left me when I was 3 months prego 1 week after we got married and wasnt there one bit for the pregnancy until a week before she was born. (Pretty sure trying to make himself look good cuz he knew I would be filing) And after he left me he wanted me to get an abortion....that said all the sudden he wants to be father of the year...yet he doesnt come visit (the one time he does visit he brings the girl over that he cheated on me with), doesnt help with anything, havent seen money, and he is in active duty tryin to fight me on full custody.
With that said, is it any way possible for him to get any custody while in active duty and barely sees his daughter and doesn't help with anything? Im not trying to keeps his daughter from him at all, I told him i just want 100% physical custody and he can have visitation but after he is out of the Military in 2 years hes going back to Texas and I will still be in California.
Joint legal, you having physical custody. The military thing is a non-issue...military stands behind their boys, for good and bad.
I think its worse if they're in the military, they seem to be alot more lenient to deadbeats than a civilian court may be. I believe its all through military courts. I've known my share of single moms with exs active duty, two in the last 6 months or so. Nothing but a headache trying to get child support if they don't pay on time. Civilian court has no jurisdiction, and complaints of non-payment fall on deaf ears
Trying to remember specifics, but honestly, when they started complaining to me was usually when I tuned them out
Put in a call to a military member's commander and first sargeant, and I bet the problem gets taken care of a little quicker.Joint legal, you having physical custody. The military thing is a non-issue...military stands behind their boys, for good and bad.
I think its worse if they're in the military, they seem to be alot more lenient to deadbeats than a civilian court may be. I believe its all through military courts. I've known my share of single moms with exs active duty, two in the last 6 months or so. Nothing but a headache trying to get child support if they don't pay on time. Civilian court has no jurisdiction, and complaints of non-payment fall on deaf ears
Trying to remember specifics, but honestly, when they started complaining to me was usually when I tuned them out
Put in a call to a military member's commander and first sargeant, and I bet the problem gets taken care of a little quicker.