Help: Father's rights / attorneys

HotTamale707

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what gets me.......I just don't understand how she could keep them from me...........I could understand if i was a druggie, an alky, or abusive....but for no reason? just to be a bitch? you guys have no clue what's went through my head to obtain 24 hours with my boys...but they've already went on there first fishing trip with stepdaddy. I haven't seen them in 7 months and God know what she tells them, so i'm sure they think i abonded them, as they're not super crazy about talking to me anymore, whereas, they used to be daddy's boys like you couldn't imagine. so much for that....i even begged to come to their birthdays..............nope. she wouldn't tell me when or where. and I'm a major piece of shit because I won't send her every last one of the pictures, toys, clothes, etc. that i have of them.................... which by the way is an extremely small amount.

I don't see how she could either. It doesn't make sense, I don't get how anyone could keep someone's children from them for no reason. I'm sorry.
 

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I don't see how she could either. It doesn't make sense, I don't get how anyone could keep someone's children from them for no reason. I'm sorry.
Thank you. As much as i dislike her right now....I would never keep her from them, or them from her. You know why? because she is their mother. PERIOD. It's not fair to them, for all of this, it's truly sad. And nothing pisses me off more, than someone saying, well..........one day they're gonna hate her for what shés done....I don't want them to hate her...I just want to be a father.
 

HotTamale707

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Thank you. As much as i dislike her right now....I would never keep her from them, or them from her. You know why? because she is their mother. PERIOD. It's not fair to them, for all of this, it's truly sad. And nothing pisses me off more, than someone saying, well..........one day they're gonna hate her for what shés done....I don't want them to hate her...I just want to be a father.

Your welcome. I know exactly how you feel just the other way around. I dont want to keep her from her father. It'll all work out, it may take time but it will.
 

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I can tell you that having faith in our Lord Jesus Christ helped me through it. He just gave the level of comfort that I knew it would work out in the end and it did. Bets of luck to each of you and talk with your closest family or friends to get some of the frustration off your chest. That will help you through it too.
 

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Im sorry to hear. Im going thru the same thing right now.

But question for you guys.... Baby's daddy is trying to fight me on full custody. He left me when I was 3 months prego 1 week after we got married and wasnt there one bit for the pregnancy until a week before she was born. (Pretty sure trying to make himself look good cuz he knew I would be filing) And after he left me he wanted me to get an abortion....that said all the sudden he wants to be father of the year...yet he doesnt come visit (the one time he does visit he brings the girl over that he cheated on me with), doesnt help with anything, havent seen money, and he is in active duty tryin to fight me on full custody.

With that said, is it any way possible for him to get any custody while in active duty and barely sees his daughter and doesn't help with anything? Im not trying to keeps his daughter from him at all, I told him i just want 100% physical custody and he can have visitation but after he is out of the Military in 2 years hes going back to Texas and I will still be in California.

Joint legal, you having physical custody. The military thing is a non-issue...military stands behind their boys, for good and bad.

I think its worse if they're in the military, they seem to be alot more lenient to deadbeats than a civilian court may be. I believe its all through military courts. I've known my share of single moms with exs active duty, two in the last 6 months or so. Nothing but a headache trying to get child support if they don't pay on time. Civilian court has no jurisdiction, and complaints of non-payment fall on deaf ears

Trying to remember specifics, but honestly, when they started complaining to me was usually when I tuned them out:D
 

HotTamale707

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Joint legal, you having physical custody. The military thing is a non-issue...military stands behind their boys, for good and bad.

I think its worse if they're in the military, they seem to be alot more lenient to deadbeats than a civilian court may be. I believe its all through military courts. I've known my share of single moms with exs active duty, two in the last 6 months or so. Nothing but a headache trying to get child support if they don't pay on time. Civilian court has no jurisdiction, and complaints of non-payment fall on deaf ears

Trying to remember specifics, but honestly, when they started complaining to me was usually when I tuned them out:D

The good thing about Cali is that the state just takes child support out of his paycheck and sends it to me. So I don't have to worry about him not paying or being late. The rest is a total headache. All I gotta say is I wouldn't wish any of this upon anyone. Its not fun.
 

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Joint legal, you having physical custody. The military thing is a non-issue...military stands behind their boys, for good and bad.

I think its worse if they're in the military, they seem to be alot more lenient to deadbeats than a civilian court may be. I believe its all through military courts. I've known my share of single moms with exs active duty, two in the last 6 months or so. Nothing but a headache trying to get child support if they don't pay on time. Civilian court has no jurisdiction, and complaints of non-payment fall on deaf ears

Trying to remember specifics, but honestly, when they started complaining to me was usually when I tuned them out:D
Put in a call to a military member's commander and first sargeant, and I bet the problem gets taken care of a little quicker.
 

HotTamale707

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Put in a call to a military member's commander and first sargeant, and I bet the problem gets taken care of a little quicker.

Thats what I've been told but I have to wait for him to respond to me filing for the divorce before I can do anything else. He asked for an extention and I was nice and gave him another month to be able to respond.