cali trucks are difficult because they have the more advanced GPCM that has independant control over all 8 glow plugs as opposed to simply bussing all the glow plugs together like federal emmissioins trucks. I think they run the same 4.7v glow plugs as the LLY+ engines (federal LB7 trucks run 12 volt glow plugs), so in that case theres no way you could run a relay. ECM would complain about there being no GPCM on the J1939 high speed data bus; and might mess up a LOT of things (or even crash the data bus) if you remove the GPCM because J1939 relies on terminating resistors and stuff on the high and low data wires...
Honestly...just replace the GPCM, im sure a cheap used one can be found.
just my opinion.
ben